Monitoring your inner world.

Stress has its toll on us all during the season when schedules pick up pace to fit in family members and meet others expectations.  We normally try at some level we are capable or aware of in ourselves to help others around us to be happy.  It is a rare thing to find someone who would enjoy going out of their way to make us upset.  We are all on a continuum going toward the light in this life and finding liberation and others may not be in the same place as we are and have a different energy about them.  While we cannot avoid people completely it is always wise to limit our connection with others who are unable to respect us or treat us with a caring attitude.
I was stunned to find people who could not care for me during a recent trip nor have the insight to understand how their behavior had affected me.  I even had the person concerned try to put her arms around me as I sat in a chair and ignored her passing.  Such incredible lack of empathy and yet I know that it is because that is the level of understanding that person has and I accept that but it doesn't mean to say that I will continue to allow further circumstances to me in a similar situation again.  That is what drawing boundaries is about and we have to take care of ourselves first on the spiritual path.  It isn't about sacrificing our own good for others ignorance or lack of common courtesy.  I find some people get confused about caring for themselves on the spiritual path and putting other first.  I have done this with patient care in the context of the healing relationship when the person has a need for strength and support from the healing person.   Then I allow for the giving and direct my attention and energy to uplifting the person.  It is through my intention for their good and constant focus of mental, spiritual and physical efforts that a therapeutic and healing field occurs.  This relationship can be used with people from time to time but not when people are unwilling to grow but instead tirelessly repeat the same abusive behaviors.   Then I will "leave off," as a phrase that my Master uses to bring us out of meditation.
I explained to the lady who dropped me off at my home that I have certain standards and I don't break them or allow others to trample on them.  That is a core part of my being and I have earned my own self respect through years of learning that started out with the mental or psychological approach and later found the spiritual path that embraces the total self.  There is no going back and when I have to walk away from situations that have a quality that belongs in the past I know that God will support me and situations, people and things that serve my highest good will then manifest.  If we don't respect ourselves others won't either and our self respect is reflected in our total countenance.
T-F-B!  Remember this acronym because you will soon be able to monitor your thoughts, feelings and behaviors if you do!  The purer your thoughts the higher your vibration that is felt on the emotional or feeling level inside.  For instance when you experience mental anguish it is felt inside the soul or upper torso of the body where this energetic part of our being resides.  The solar plexus or center of gravity spot on our body will often feel a "hit" when someone throws an unkind word or thought our way.  It is through the spiritual shield that we can deflect from psychic attacks of others.  Our behaviors are like a reflex of our emotions that arise because of our thinking.  Behaviors will change as soon as thinking is made positive.
Once you are able to take a deep breath and center your mind on the area of your heart you will become attuned to your inner state.  Whenever you feel a downward spiraling of emotions do something simple like closing your eyes and breathing easy to relax and go inside with your total awareness.  Focus on the area of your heart.  Your soul will lead you and take you through the process necessary for you to find stillness and peace.  As you get to know your inner self you will be able to spend more time in harmony with your life because your vibes will attract higher vibes to you.  When you want to attract money think of money all the time and incorporate money into the realm of love that you live in.  It is better to arrive at a higher realm of existence and then draw in the material blessings that vise verse.  In my humble opinion.
I work as a Professional Life Coach and can be reached at lawrencerita511@gmail.com I require individuals to become vegetarian and find a spiritual path or follow your particular religion.  It is important to become initiated by a living Master and I recommend that you check www.sos.org for more information.