Good thoughts come back to you through good happenings in your life.

When we see good in others we recognize in them that which is in ourselves.  When we see God in others following Mother Teresa's example we are in touch with our own Godliness in side our own being.  Spirituality used to seem very on the fringe but now is more main stream as people realize that when they clean their act up so to speak their lives actually turn out better and they experience more joy and loving relationships.  What holds us back is our conditioning and that can come from a broad social context or from our close family contacts.  We have to shed our false self or small ego that is tied to everything that we have identified to without the experience first being grounded in our love for God.  Once we have this experience of God's love that is ever live and present in our own heart and soul we can relate to others in a whole new way that brings harmony into our lives.  We don't have to feel isolated or that our life hasn't worked out as well as we had anticipated.  There are never any mistakes on our part only learning opportunities.
Once you let go of the negative ways of viewing life you will naturally replace it with positive thoughts.  Positive thoughts draw in positive people into our lives and positive things will begin to happen.  When we feel despair in our lives it is just that we haven't experienced God's love for us and that is always available.  What it takes is a step of faith and confidence will replace the feeling of void.  Confidence building after you cross over dark waters and get to the other side.  There is no magic cure for getting you out of a space of despair.  It is your trust in your own ability to muster up the strength to get to the next stage.  There is always a period of pressure, like being caught between a rock and a hard spot before the good times happen.  Just hang in there until you can see the light at the end of the tunnel.
None of us are spared hard times in this life.  Certainly some people's lives seem smoother from our perspective.  It is through the struggles that our minds and hearts are made stronger and we grow in confidence and love as a result.  It's just that we don't these realities out into the open in our families.  Perhaps you have come from a family like my own where achievements went unrecognized.  I never felt the pride that my own mother felt when I completed graduate school.  In my earlier years this coldness and harshness caused me a lot of emotional pain.
Today if you are having a difficult time start by writing an intention that is clear.  For instance "I will go for a walk."  "I will look for the good in my boss/spouse/parent etc."  "I will sit for meditation."
The best tool for inner healing is meditation.  Meditation has been taught in the East for thousands of years and we have had great mystic teachers come to the US.  I met a lovely woman who has three generations now initiated and practicing Science of Spirituality www.sos.org
I am a Professional Life Coach and can be reached at lawrencerita511@gmail.com