Loss of a child's life.

Perhaps the greatest loss anyone has to face in life is the loss of a child.  Whether it is because of having an abortion at a time in life when you didn't have the conscious awareness about the sacredness of life that begins at conception; the loss of a baby during pregnancy from other causes or as an parent of an adult. The mother and father will always remember their baby or child who was never able to share in the times of family gatherings, instead always leaving a vacant spot in their hearts.  Pain is something that has to be endured and hopefully it will diminish over time. 

I have found the best method of lessening the power of any situation over me is to share the experience with others, some of whom may benefit by your outreach.  Some sit in silent suffering and there is no way of knowing what is going on in someone else's heart and mind.  Support groups can be a good place to start the healing process.  Margie Basarba wrote a sensitive comment on her face book page recently that touched my heart and I wanted to share her link with others because in God's design you never know who needs the information at that particular time. 

I recently heard of a family member of someone I know being killed.  It happened in a neighborhood that I knew from my earlier days in Kansas City when I used to go out on the town with my husband.  I had not heard the particular news story she referred to but I sensed that it was an unexpected death and probably a murder.  I have a particular sensitivity toward this particular situation because I also had a close family member who was murdered.  I was working at the time and seven months pregnant when I left for England and felt that I was pulled into the eye of the storm.  Murder is evil and yet there is a tendency by society to take pity on the murderer.  I always think of my brother and wonder what his life would have been like had he lived past his 30th birthday.  For me there has been no way of reconciling the facts about the injustice of it all and I wonder what he knew about his wife having an affair at the time.  It was his wife's boyfriend who shot my brother in the back of his head as he arrived home and was walking toward the entrance of the apartment building where they lived with their two young children.  The milkman found his dead body in the morning and my eldest brother was called by the police to identify his body.  The victim leaves behind a wide circle of people who will feel the loss for the rest of their lives and the only consolation is to focus on the good memories.  Their memory will always be present in the hearts of family members and it is our love for them that never dies and continues to grow.

When tragedies happen they will take us to a deeper place inside our own soul where we seek to find the answers to life's purpose and ask God to help us cope with the pain.  There are no miracle bullets as far as medications are concerned.  Meditation is a method of healing through connecting with God within your own heart that has been taught by the Spiritual Masters from the East for thousands of years.  Take time during your grieving process to go inside in silence and even if you sit through painful emotions know that it is an inner cleansing process that is taking place and that the divine power or energy that you will connect with is also supremely intelligent and knows how to remove the pain and emotional blocks.  I recommend that you work under the guidance of a spiritual master who can initiate you on the spiritual journey.  Under the guidance of a Master you can be sure that the right circumstances and conditions will present themselves in your life to make your pure as gold in the process. 

One of the philosophical frameworks that Eastern Master's teach is karma.  Our thoughts and actions will bear fruit in this life or can lead to the consequence of having to come back in another life to fulfill the right or wrong action that we did.  That's right!  The balance of equipoise is so fine in yoga that we are required to reap the fruits of our good actions also.  That is why detachment is so important to know.  I recently read that on the path of Buddhism followeres are taught to prepare for the afterlife when they are presented with incidents in which they hurt another's feelings.  In the afterlife they feel and expereince the other's anguish for which they are responsible for causing.  In order to avoid the karmic lesson by having to repeat a lifetime to learn how to respond in a more loving way perhaps, followers are instructed to look past the condition of the person or event so thay they are not hooked into or attached by the energy of what they created.  I did not read further to know what other ways might be presented to correct our karma.  This is a tool that you can begin to apply to your life now.

Perhaps I could have benefitted by this method after my brother was murdered and we found that his wife had been involved with not only trying to poison him but in buying the gun that was used to shoot him.  When I think of my ex-sister-in-law and her boyfriend I can feel less impacted by their evil deed by looking past them.  Perhaps I can also image them in a light that radiates from the stars and sun behind them or God's light (however you want to draw light into the picture.)  By looking past them and connecting with the powerful source of the universe and God you won't get entangled emotionally with the issues and energy surrounding the individuals involved. 

For those who have lost a baby through a misguided decision to have an abortion or unintentional loss of a pregnancy perhaps the same technique will help to heal.  Whenever you image the baby or see the child in other stages of normal development picture that child in white light and see if you can look past the child and join the light that is radiating into the scene from behind.  As I write this I can invission a young girl of perhaps 9 or 10 with golden hair and curly locks swinging on a rope tied to a tree limb.  Give yourself permission to grieve and continue to hold onto your faith in the after life where your child is now with God.  Allow yourself to remeber what your child meant to your and your spouse and talk about what he or she would have been like had their life continued.  Always stay in rememberance of God.  When I feel myself experience any negative thought or feeling I immediately remember my own Spiritual Master or God then feel energized and spiritually uplifted.  It is similar to driving a car and learning to listen to the engine and know when to shift gears.  It takes practice but you will inevitably steer in the right direction.

My work in the past has been in the mental health field.  I found that more and more I wanted to help people with deeper healing that takes place through connecting with their own spirituality.  For the past two years I have been writing and working as a Professional Life Coach.  My work is grounded in spirituality and vegetarianism.  The unawakened life is arrid and awakening to the spiritual dimension makes us alive and we can be empowered through our connection with God. 

Science of Spirituality is devoted to uplifting the lives of people who seek to know God in this life and improve their own lives through the guidance of the teachings of Sant Rajinder Singh Ji Marahaj.  I recommend that you check the web site http://www.sos.org/  There is information there about afterlife experiences that have been reported by so many who have had their accounts recorded.

Please feel free to contact me by email: lawrencerita511@gmail.com
I will respons to all inquiries and questions and hope to assist you to take your live from the oridinary to extraordinary.

Today reaffirm your belief in yourself.

When your life seems to be going slow or you have a sense of being in a holding pattern it is important to use the inner tools of enlightenment.  Your mind will want to take you down the spiral of despair but there is no truth to your life not being just as it is supposed to be because it doesn't fit your definition of where you life should be.  Perhaps it is in the financial realm, health, relationship or spiritual development that you feel there is a lag.  A spiritual leader used to say "Don't worry be happy!"  Quite a lofty ideal set in a few simple words but true non-the-less.

Use affirmations to keep your mind focused on your goals.  An affirmation is a short paragraph or sentence that says in positive terms that you will achieve a particular goal.  Today I affirm that I will reach out to and uplift a new group of people who will benefit from my work.  Today I affirm that I have the benefit of reaping the rewards of the spiritual work done to date and will be supported by the Grace of my Master.  This is how affirmations work.  They provide the framework for you to build upon to empower yourself on the inside.  There is no room for negativity and self doubt when you are filled with powerful words of positivity. 

Write your goals down and take the necessary steps (or objectives) to reach your goals.  Write three long term goals that you want to achieve by three months out from now.  Then write short term goals that go with the long term goal that you will measure in 1 week, 2 weeks, 3 weeks and at the months end.  Keep track of your achievements and if something is obstructing your path, (most of us experiences a shortage of funds, time or other resources,) don't think for a minute that it means that your project will be derailed.  Instead focus on the parts of your plan that will work until you can draw in the needed money or other resources. 

I encourage meditation and prayer.  Prayer so that you can ask God for what you need and meditation so that you can listen to what God is telling you to do.  Use guided imagery to see yourself with the money you need.  If your goal is to earn a set amount of money - make that amount HUGE!  Why limit yourself with what the universe can supply.  In today's economy it is not unusual to hear predictions about the economy getting worse and worse.  This is good to know and we all should be diligent about making plans to survive a crisis and vote for the right person to represent the public good.  However, don't get too hung up because ultimately God is in control and his universe is abundant and He wants to give us what we wish for as His children.  This is where faith plays an important role in your life.  You have to make the practical steps toward your work and caring for yourself and allow God to bring what you need to you.  It is more about surrender than control.  Know that where doors are closed and things or people in our lives have departed it is another opportunity to elevate your life to new realms of experience. 

Letting go and surrender is a slow process for most of us because it is our natural tendency to want to hang on for dear life to what we feel is secure.  In actuality nothing is secure and the only thing that is for sure is your relationship with God.  Pay attention to who is being brought to you and what resources come to you and use gratitude to infuse potential into all situations.  Every situation is like a seed that can grow into a flower or a huge tree like the mighty oak form a small acorn.  Surrender to what is and sit back comfortably into your life as it takes the form that you wish your life to be.  If your are looking for a broad following then spending time on the web is what will get you to your goal.  Surrender to putting in your personal time.  I have heard of people who sign up to apps that deliver messages at prescribed intervals on Twitter.  In my estimation they are missing out on the real benefit of social networking and that is about relationships.  Gaulding who was a Life Coach coined the term "Return on Relationship."  You will have to let go of habits such as using technology to cut corners.  Prioritize your time and spend as much time as you can building relationships.  Surrender means that your faith in God is such that you can depend on Him and Him alone to provide the circumstance and means for you to reach your goals.  Praise Him and open your heart with gratitude.

Intention is the clear will that you exert when you set goals and objectives.  Intention is like a sharp arrow that is thrust toward the goal or bulls eye from the bow.  There is some practice required and like the archer the more skilled he/she becomes the faster and more accurately the arrow hits the target.  Having a mind that is one pointed comes through spiritual practices.  The one which I insist on having people follow is Meditation.  Start with fifteen or twenty minutes then build up to an hour every day.  Keep a journal and write down what comes up for you.  You may find that your own consciousness will direct you to make certain changes in your business to help you grow and succeed.  The more you meditate the easier it is to access that part of you from which creativity springs forth in whatever form that is uniquely for you.  Mine is business and teaching through writing and networking.  Yours may be music, math, athletics of something else.  Don't suppress your creativity because it is a power guide to direct your path that will help you be successful and earn money. 

Finding balance in your life will bring the harmony that you need to draw money and success.  I have found since spending time with my spiritual Teacher that a disciplined life works best for me.  That means eating vegetarian foods.  If you are not ready to give up meat eating I recommend you shop at Wal-Mart or another store where they buy from farmers who allow animals free range.  Keep your life simple so that your energy can be directed toward your work, thus less distractions with other responsibilities.  Every hour of the day should be planned with activities and spiritual practices and reading that will benefit you.  Make your life your number one priority and put your needs first.  Although we are taught that this is approach is selfish -  it is not.  My Teacher said that we can have all the zeros in the world but unless we put a one first they mean nothing. 

Words are powerful and I want you to read spiritual texts that are meaningful to you.  Claim Biblical passages that assure your protection and good.  Empower yourself through these truths.  Stay away from nonbelievers as much as possible and limit the amount of conversation.  If you have to engage with someone who is not positive keep it short and simple.  Always be polite but that doesn't mean that you let people tread on you.  The work you are undertaking is transformative and it will rattle certain people's cage!  When they see the change in you they will attempt to sabotage or bring you down to their level.  This is lower human behavior and you will take the higher road.  Like a stone being tumbled on the river bed you will become sooth.  Let the process happen and keep yourself uplifted.  Gandhi said "I will never let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet."

Keep your words pure, sweet and simple and breath easy when you feel the pressures of life come upon you.  A French proverb says that a good conscience is like having a feather pillow on which to rest one's head at night.  Try to do the right things and trust God and trust yourself to live the life of your dreams.

Please feel free to contact me:  lawrencerita511@gmail.com