This is your life - make it happen!

During my adolescents I used to watch a program on television with my mother called "This is your life!"  Each program had guest who was public figure or celebrity.  It was a kind of "roasting" with friends and colleagues who surprised the guest by airing funny little secrets to the public.  It was a good hearted program and it made me think about what life could be like for me.

As a Professional Life Coach I realize more and more that our life goes by very quickly and we can be forever looking at our lives as though it were something on a television screen that will be eventually turned off. 

It becomes clear to us to get up and do something that will change our life and make it into something that we want it to be.  There is risk involved and it can be like free falling.  I have never done anything like bungee jumping or sky diving but in essence when you let go of all that is familiar and soar into the unknown it is similar. I can understand what our restrictions can appear to be like during various stages of family development when there are children to care for that may outweigh our freedom to take risks.  When you are ready you will know and seize the moment when an opportunity presents itself in your life.

Take the necessary steps to prepare for whatever endeavors you are interested in and when opportunity knocks you will be ready.  Always plan and keep your heart and mind on what ever success you want to bring into your life.  Mine has been helping people since I was a little girl and I observed nurses taking care of my dying father.  I am now at a point in my life when I can do other things and that is why I have chosen Life Coaching.  I no longer ascribe to pharmaceutical remedies and like to motivate and promote health life styles as a prevention to ill health.  Diet is a focal point and I ask those who work with me to become vegetarian and develop a regular practice of meditation.

When you are seeking to expand your opportunity to earn income start by building your networks through social network sites like Twitter.com and Facebook.com  When you have a product or service that you would like to build start a business page on Facebook and join similar groups to yours on LinkedIn.com  It takes time to build a following but once you have an interest in your work you will be able to take your particular business to the next level.  Forbes.com has some information on the necessary licenses etc. that you need for a start up business.  There are software programs for developing your website or you can join a free website and go from there.  From my experience it is best to build the social network groups first and then use the website as a place to connect all the groups and offer a fee for product/service.

Always start with yourself and where you are.  If you feel fenced in by circumstances don't think that it excludes possibilities for creating an ideal lifestyle.  Your responsibility as a parent comes before all else.  Write your dream life out on paper and specific goals that you can achieve.  If you cannot see the goals being met in the foreseeable future then write something like "when I can."  Keep this in a special place i.e. with your Bible or by a picture of Jesus or your Higher Power.  Everyday read over your dream and work on the things that you can do.  It might be steps like taking a particular class or setting up a savings account for a future business.  Do something that keeps the dream alive.  Make a special prayer for your dream.  Make each word a positive statement to draw positive results.  An example may be as follows:

Today I bring myself into the work place with an open mind and an open heart,
I welcome everyone I meet as someone whom I see Jesus in (Higher Power)
People like to do business with me because I always go the extra mile and love to serve my client's needs,
I am happy to make my customer's lives better through the product/service that offer from my heart
I spend time getting to know about my clients lives and when a particular problem arises I can offer a wealth of solutions
My God blesses me and all that I have contact with.....

You can use this prayer as a guide and tailor your own prayer to your own design.  Know that your life is under the divine guidance of our creator and we have lessons to learn while living and blessings to receive.  Everything has a season and if there is a time lag know that what you are waiting for to happen will be even better than you first anticipated.  Learn patience.  Meditate and eat vegetarian foods.  Monitor your thoughts.  Always have positive thoughts and if you keep a journal you will be able to improve your minds habits that have been holding you back from the success and abundance that is your birthright.

I am going to attend a talk tonight by Jimmy Ezzell who is a great business and leadership mentor about NutriRain a product that I hope to promote and to incorporate into my work.  Find a Coach who can show you how to develop the right attitude and embrace life to the fullest.  Make your life one that is expanding your horizons and your capacity to create streams of wealth.  Look after your health.  Napoleon Hill said that there could be no success without health and I think that's right.  Think about it.  You can adapt to almost any circumstance but it is an extra burden to try to rise up and achieve your goals.

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Core beliefs are our own attitudes about ourselves.

We engage with the world from our own perspective and so we have differences of opinions to outright conflict due to our beliefs.  Core beliefs that are held by youth can differ depending on the cultural context and our conditioning.  In Kansas City where I am living we have a lovely and swanky area called the Plaza.  It used to have a supermarket that was more upscale than price chopper for sure but it went out of business several years ago and not has been replaced.  A core belief that I have is that there are disparities based on race and culture and that the ones who have had the good fortune to earn the most money are ones with the cultural connections and families who inherited wealth.

We saw a rebellion in the Plaza earlier this year when a thousand young African American youths descended on the area to hang out and create conflict due to their mere presence.  A core belief held by people who are mostly white is that they have the right to shop in peace and enjoy spending their wealth on goods that are for the elite minority.  I believe that we have the right to earn money and I am all for it.  I don't like poverty and don't like it when you have to exist in a society where there are barriers to becoming wealthy.  It's called the old boy's club where depending on who you family is or who you know carries more weight than your talents.

Each generation has some distinguishing characteristics that make a statement about their core beliefs.  Generally I believe due to peer pressure individual thinking is not as common among youth as being part of a wave of new thoughts and the resulting expression of those thoughts via their behaviors.  When I was a youth just by following the Rolling Stones and The Beatles meant that you were counter culture to the older generation.  I adapted the same core beliefs as my peers that sexual freedom was a way of opening up and relating to the world of taboo and ending a systemic cultural conditioning that sex was reserved for marriage.  I for one didn't want to get married and when the time came when I felt the pressure to get married I had an opportunity to move to the Midwest, USA.

A core belief of the young people who invaded the sanctity of the Plaza where it can be viewed as sacred ground for the wealth of the area is that they deserve to be respected.  They are looking to enjoy the same freedoms as others but haven't got the doe (money) and pedigree to go along with their ideas of being free to enjoy the fruits of the good life.  They are pushing back in much the same way that I see the everyday French people who are pushing back at those who have taken over streets in Paris to kneel down and pray.  Here again we have conflict resulting from opposing sets of core beliefs and it's territorial in much the same way that the African American youth choose a territory to exhibit how they felt about the rich in Kansas City.

The Indian Spiritual Masters whom I have studied with help transform us individually through their talks which are based on philosophy and science to help us to realign our thinking and become better people.  We have all been conditioned by our families and culture and loose touch with our true identity and our  inner home of the heart which we share with God.  Through meditation and other spiritual practices such as jappa which is the repetition of a mantra, or God's name.  You can use whatever name that God is known to you and that is pure, holy and dear.  My Teacher has given a Sirnam which is a set of different names of God that are repeated silently.  The Master gives the names to the student and it is something which is kept as a sacred and significant bond and tool for the spiritual journey to sound and light meditation.  Meditation is not merely a method of using silence and stillness to feel calm and increase concentration.  It is a vehicle whereby you are enabled to connect with God and experience your own greatness. 

One of the core beliefs that most of us are taught and conditioned by our culture, is that to think of one self as great is not good and anyone who would share that personal core belief may find themselves ostracised by others.  We even have labels for people.  Big head, self centered and so on and so on.  The truth is that we are all great in God's eyes and the Bible even says that we are created in God's image.  My Teacher said during a New Year's talk that we should learn to put ourselves first because we can have all the zero's in the world, but unless there is a one first they don't amount to anything!  My Teacher's Master who came to the United States in the seventies said that we should honor, respect and love ourselves because God dwells within us as us.  A core belief that we are taught in the West is that God exists some where up in the heavens.  Jesus proclaimed that the Kingdom of God is within.  Another Saint whom I love so much said that we should go into our hearts and roam because there is no other place that is as sacred.

I believe that youths today are seeking to find happiness in much the same way that most of us start to at least, through external sources.  True joy and happiness happens on the inside and it's not necessary to have luxuries and money to feel blissful.  I personally would rather not be poor and that is the way my personality is.  I am not comfortable going to fancy places because I am more likely to align my attention and concern for those who are working in such places and I never feel comfortable being on beaches where other's can enjoy because they are isolated in some ghetto like part of the town.  I noticed a parallel town in Naples, Florida where I used to visit my sister with my daughter when she was young.  It wasn't until we went to a store in a part of town that her husband was looking for bathroom fixtures or something that I realized that there were duplexes that housed a poor African American community.

My core belief that got me to this country was that I would be free to choose the type of lifestyle that I wanted.  I worked hard and completed my education at The Catholic University of America, Washington DC, graduating with a Master of Science Degree in nursing.  Being an entrepreneur I opened a business and then closed it due to issues with the state board of nursing.  A core belief of mine is that it is both good for your own personal development as well as helps others through volunteering.  I volunteered in prisons where I helped inmates manage their own spiritual programs and support each other as they served out their time.  Since I returned to Kansas City after working in the Bay Area, California I cleared up the issues had come up with the state boards in my absence and have found once again that the board posted something untrue about my standing on their web. 

A core belief that I may have in common with the African American youths is that they have the right to have the support and use of resources.  I think that the event caused enough of a stir that leadership has been putting their heads together to come up with some solutions.  I hope that one of the solutions is to educate everyone about respect.  I don't think that my spiritual Master's would condone behaviors that are disorderly.  However, I do note that they pay an immense amount of time and attention toward the youth and developing programs to support leadership among them.  I think that it is time that people learned to grow and expand their thinking to incorporate the whole community.

At my grandson's Christening I was moved when the Priest asked the congregation to open up to the African American community who lived just blocks away across the boulevard that seperates one section of town from the other.  I hope that their community embraces this idea and welcomes African Americans especially their youth.  It begins with each one of us to take the responsibility to stand up one by one when we experience things in our lives that aren't just and spread kindness wherever it occurs.  Just yesterday someone wrote on my facebook wall in a nasty way about children from a certain minority.  I am thinking of finding a way to keep a statement posted on my wall to the effect that I do not believe in being unkind no matter what the political issues might be.  I personally am quite conservative but I again responded to the chatter that had been going on over a picture of The First Lady taken from behind that they needed to "drop,"the thread. 

I would like you to start with yourself and write a list of what your own core beliefs about yourself are.  Negative ones that typically drive peoples self critical inner dialogue are ones such as (I'm ugly, stupid, not good at...., not likable ect.)
Once you learn to identify what they are you can then challenge your thinking that is driven by these sets of beliefs like an inner engine.

Meditation is the key to the engine so that you can turn off this useless nonsense that goes around inside peoples heads.  Meditate daily and eat a vegetarian diet.  Think good thoughts about yourself.

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