Stalkers in the UK

I recently left a flat where I had brought furniture, carpeted and intended to stay.  The reason was that a man who lived in the same complex had tried to make a pass at me and when I responded negatively he put mud all over my blanket.  It didn't stop there, however and I soon found that my flat was intruded upon when I was out on a regular basis leaving marks on the wall, my personal items and dirt on the bathroom floor.  After the windows in my bedroom were all unlocked I called the police only to be asked to hand in my window key and get a psychiatric evaluation!!!  It's true!  Since I have found this is the police usual MO for dealing with women who are stalked.  It's easy to label and ignore pleas for protection.  I have a hunch that the crime stats are down in the UK because they don't do interventions like I would have expected but wait until a crime is committed such as rape or murder in stalking incidents which count for at least 12 murders a year. Then they already have collected names and evidence and can grab the criminal and mark as one more notch for policing!  Got my drift?  

Be very careful when you visit the UK.  120,000 mostly women are stalked each year in the UK and 64% report that the police refused to help them.  Sounds familiar territory to me!  You can buy pepper spray to protect yourself and that's about it because I kept a knife between my mattress and box springs which gave the policeman a mind set of lecturing me about what I cannot do to protect myself in the UK knowing that I had recently lived in the US where the laws are different.  Well how about that!  But he couldn't tell me what law prohibited me from sleeping with a knife by my bed.

www.nss.org.uk provides useful information should you find a stalker on your back when visiting the UK.  The Freedom from Harassment Act (1997) was ignored by the policeman who spoke with me and from what I understand it is used for civil litigation purposes which enables you to hire a solicitor and get a court injunction against the stalker.

Use your intuition and pay attention to your surroundings and keep safe no matter what the police think you are i.e. "mental health problem," as they use for a cop out (excuse the pun) instead of helping women who are stalked like myself.

Loss of a child's life.

Perhaps the greatest loss anyone has to face in life is the loss of a child.  Whether it is because of having an abortion at a time in life when you didn't have the conscious awareness about the sacredness of life that begins at conception; the loss of a baby during pregnancy from other causes or as an parent of an adult. The mother and father will always remember their baby or child who was never able to share in the times of family gatherings, instead always leaving a vacant spot in their hearts.  Pain is something that has to be endured and hopefully it will diminish over time. 

I have found the best method of lessening the power of any situation over me is to share the experience with others, some of whom may benefit by your outreach.  Some sit in silent suffering and there is no way of knowing what is going on in someone else's heart and mind.  Support groups can be a good place to start the healing process.  Margie Basarba wrote a sensitive comment on her face book page recently that touched my heart and I wanted to share her link with others because in God's design you never know who needs the information at that particular time. 

I recently heard of a family member of someone I know being killed.  It happened in a neighborhood that I knew from my earlier days in Kansas City when I used to go out on the town with my husband.  I had not heard the particular news story she referred to but I sensed that it was an unexpected death and probably a murder.  I have a particular sensitivity toward this particular situation because I also had a close family member who was murdered.  I was working at the time and seven months pregnant when I left for England and felt that I was pulled into the eye of the storm.  Murder is evil and yet there is a tendency by society to take pity on the murderer.  I always think of my brother and wonder what his life would have been like had he lived past his 30th birthday.  For me there has been no way of reconciling the facts about the injustice of it all and I wonder what he knew about his wife having an affair at the time.  It was his wife's boyfriend who shot my brother in the back of his head as he arrived home and was walking toward the entrance of the apartment building where they lived with their two young children.  The milkman found his dead body in the morning and my eldest brother was called by the police to identify his body.  The victim leaves behind a wide circle of people who will feel the loss for the rest of their lives and the only consolation is to focus on the good memories.  Their memory will always be present in the hearts of family members and it is our love for them that never dies and continues to grow.

When tragedies happen they will take us to a deeper place inside our own soul where we seek to find the answers to life's purpose and ask God to help us cope with the pain.  There are no miracle bullets as far as medications are concerned.  Meditation is a method of healing through connecting with God within your own heart that has been taught by the Spiritual Masters from the East for thousands of years.  Take time during your grieving process to go inside in silence and even if you sit through painful emotions know that it is an inner cleansing process that is taking place and that the divine power or energy that you will connect with is also supremely intelligent and knows how to remove the pain and emotional blocks.  I recommend that you work under the guidance of a spiritual master who can initiate you on the spiritual journey.  Under the guidance of a Master you can be sure that the right circumstances and conditions will present themselves in your life to make your pure as gold in the process. 

One of the philosophical frameworks that Eastern Master's teach is karma.  Our thoughts and actions will bear fruit in this life or can lead to the consequence of having to come back in another life to fulfill the right or wrong action that we did.  That's right!  The balance of equipoise is so fine in yoga that we are required to reap the fruits of our good actions also.  That is why detachment is so important to know.  I recently read that on the path of Buddhism followeres are taught to prepare for the afterlife when they are presented with incidents in which they hurt another's feelings.  In the afterlife they feel and expereince the other's anguish for which they are responsible for causing.  In order to avoid the karmic lesson by having to repeat a lifetime to learn how to respond in a more loving way perhaps, followers are instructed to look past the condition of the person or event so thay they are not hooked into or attached by the energy of what they created.  I did not read further to know what other ways might be presented to correct our karma.  This is a tool that you can begin to apply to your life now.

Perhaps I could have benefitted by this method after my brother was murdered and we found that his wife had been involved with not only trying to poison him but in buying the gun that was used to shoot him.  When I think of my ex-sister-in-law and her boyfriend I can feel less impacted by their evil deed by looking past them.  Perhaps I can also image them in a light that radiates from the stars and sun behind them or God's light (however you want to draw light into the picture.)  By looking past them and connecting with the powerful source of the universe and God you won't get entangled emotionally with the issues and energy surrounding the individuals involved. 

For those who have lost a baby through a misguided decision to have an abortion or unintentional loss of a pregnancy perhaps the same technique will help to heal.  Whenever you image the baby or see the child in other stages of normal development picture that child in white light and see if you can look past the child and join the light that is radiating into the scene from behind.  As I write this I can invission a young girl of perhaps 9 or 10 with golden hair and curly locks swinging on a rope tied to a tree limb.  Give yourself permission to grieve and continue to hold onto your faith in the after life where your child is now with God.  Allow yourself to remeber what your child meant to your and your spouse and talk about what he or she would have been like had their life continued.  Always stay in rememberance of God.  When I feel myself experience any negative thought or feeling I immediately remember my own Spiritual Master or God then feel energized and spiritually uplifted.  It is similar to driving a car and learning to listen to the engine and know when to shift gears.  It takes practice but you will inevitably steer in the right direction.

My work in the past has been in the mental health field.  I found that more and more I wanted to help people with deeper healing that takes place through connecting with their own spirituality.  For the past two years I have been writing and working as a Professional Life Coach.  My work is grounded in spirituality and vegetarianism.  The unawakened life is arrid and awakening to the spiritual dimension makes us alive and we can be empowered through our connection with God. 

Science of Spirituality is devoted to uplifting the lives of people who seek to know God in this life and improve their own lives through the guidance of the teachings of Sant Rajinder Singh Ji Marahaj.  I recommend that you check the web site http://www.sos.org/  There is information there about afterlife experiences that have been reported by so many who have had their accounts recorded.

Please feel free to contact me by email: lawrencerita511@gmail.com
I will respons to all inquiries and questions and hope to assist you to take your live from the oridinary to extraordinary.

We the people know best.

I have lived half my life in a socialist country and came to America to find opportunity and an environment that would support my personal growth.  I chose to pursue higher learning so that I would better understand my work with people with psychiatric illness.  At the same time as I was expanding my nursing knowledge I was also undergoing a spiritual transformation.  I spent many years with my first Teacher in a mountain retreat in upstate New York.  I reached a point where I had achieved a certain level of spiritual attainment where the truths in situations were very evident to me.  I think that we all experience an inner knowing in our intuitive self that resonates with the truth and leaves us ill at ease when there are things that are wrong for us.  So on the one hand I was ready to do more with my education, but on the other hand I had a deep understanding of what was right for me.  I felt confident with my own assessments and diagnoses and when working with children and adolescents who were prescribed strong psycho-stimulants, I realized that I could not get a big enough pay check to make me do something that I knew was not for the children's good.

Since then I have provided therapy in private practice and owned a nursing agency.  I am now working as a Professional Life Coach.  In this role I assist individuals who seek to make their life better to find the changes that are necessary to make their dreams come to life.  My background in mental health makes me especially suited to this kind of work.  I also am in a position to help individuals explore their spiritual development and recommend meditation and vegetarian diet as two necessary components that form the platform for self growth.  In my experience our lives are propelled and empowered through our spiritual self and relationship with God or our higher power.  Whatever a person's religion is they should stay and deepen in relationship with their God.  Religion and spirituality are separate in that spirituality is about the relationship with God and how that can be manifest and experienced through meditation, nature and a desire to become one with God.  Religion on the other hand has laws and rules that have been taken from the particular teachings and restrain the individual from a deeper experience of God.  Yesterday I read an article about a Southern Baptist Minister who condemned yoga as non-Christian.  Stephanie Dillon who teaches yoga responded, "My objection (to Mohler's view) personally is that I feel that yoga enhances a person's spirituality...I don't like to look at religion from a law standpoint but a relationship stand point, a relationship with Jesus Christ spiritually." 

Having been in the company of two Indian Spiritual Teachers for many years I have seen people from all faiths come to them for the experience that results from initiation or spiritual awakening.  These enlightened beings actually vehicles for the Grace bestowing power of God  that allows for our own spiritual journey to unfold.  The experience is different for each of us but none the less your initiation will be remembered by your own unique inner experience.  The spiritual path under the direction of a Master guarantees that you will be guided to enlightenment or oneness with God.  In that state you are free from all the attachments, troubles and strife of the limited ego.  Your intuition will be expanded to the point that it acts as a screen or filter for incoming data.  Your senses become atuned and heightened through regular practice of meditation.  Things that were part of your life that are not good for you will fall away.  It won't be like giving up a painful addiction.  People whom you have associated with who are negative will not want to be around you.  They may perhaps attempt to sabotage your new life but will give up when they see you moving on toward the light.

Thoughts are powerful and words have power to create and destroy.  It is important to monitor your thoughts.  And that doesn't mean that you don't recognize danger and call a spade a spade.  You are not given a power to weaken you and make you vulnerable to those who would do you harm.  Instead your strength grows and you can move forward no matter how difficult the odds may appear.  You will learn to use your higher cortex and be less reactive from the limbic system of the brain.  Pause before you react to something.  If you are reacting pay attention to what it is about the situation that makes you respond emotionally.  Don't ignore what is going on around you.  My Teacher cautioned us that the warning signs of abuse are there for us to see and asked why we choose not to see them?  One of the things that impressed me about Geert Wilders Berlin speech was that he spoke about our attitues of denial and apathy toward the oppression that is a threat to the West from Islam is like the Berlin Wall - it needs to be recgonized and torn down. 

President Obama went to Berlin and although he drew a large crowd who wanted to know about his message of hope he has very little to say about the substance of hope.  It leaves people hanging with the expectation that they are going to be elevated by his policies and motivations.  Life is not like that.  You can have high ideals and aspirations but they have to be put into action in order to make real for everyday lives.  In the same way as most of you will be familiar with the Bible pay attention to what God's word has to say.  God is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow.  Steep your consciouness in God's guidance and promises.  We are in the midst of change not the kind that President Obama's message of hope was about.  We are in the process of having the light shined into all the nooks and crannies and what is evil will be revelied.  "There is nothing hidden that will not be exposed; nothing concealed that will not be known and brought to light." (Luke 8:17)  We are in for some turbulent times because people who would do our country harm have an attitude of entitlement and have used our national characteristic of openess and acceptance as a way to further their agenda to dominate.  "Be on your guard; stand frim in the faith; be men of courage; be strong." (ICor 16:13) 

These texts from the Bible are to awaken you to pay attention.  Do not be discouraged but know that the victory over evil has already been paid for and won.  Your job is to stand firm and speak out when you can.  Your family is here today because you had ancestors who were strong and could overcome circumstances that threatened their lives.  In the same way today we have Islam that is threatening our culture and existence as we know it today.  We need to stand firm against outside threats that try to attack our way of law and government.  We have 11 South American Countries trying to take Gov. Jan Brewer to court over the Arizona laws to try to bring illegal immigration under control along the unsecured border.  These days there is no time to sit on the fense.  Know right from wrong and vote for the people who will protect US citizens.  Recently there was a woman whose nephew had been murdered by an illegal immigrant in LA.  She reported that while only one Congressman who was a Republican supported her wish to speak before a committee about the 30 murders that are taking place each year by illegal immigrants she was denied the opportunity by the Democrats.  They should be ashamed of themselves for having a comedian speak to them about illegal immigration.  What a dog and poney show that was!  Washington has reached new depths in cess pool hygiene and it stinks all the way out across the praries.

In conclusion, don't be discouraged and don't go about your life half asleep.  Your liberties and freedoms can be taken from you.  They are only guaranteed when you fight to protect them.  Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr. - Supreme Court Justice said "I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving - we must sail sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it - but we must sail, and not drift, nor be in anchor."  Sail on my friends and be the captain of your ship.